I have a couple of tips in the pipeline about romantic relationships, and they've posed a bit of a challenge. I've wrestled about how to handle gender specific pronouns. As I wrote, I believe there's no right answer. Worse, even if I could find a way to dodge the pronoun issue I'd still have a bigger problem. As open minded as I attempt to be, I cannot avoid having a heteronormative viewpoint. The rules I've developed about relationships are from the point of view of a man who's interested in women.
One one hand, I worry about excluding or offending readers with incorrect implicit assumptions about them. On the other, If I were to attempt to generalize this advice, it may well become useless, and it would certainly come out awkward and affected.
I'm sharing these rules with other people, but ultimately they're all ones that I developed for myself. In order to remain true to the intent of this blog and to stick with what I'm good at, I'm not going to alter them. That may well mean that, in their purest form, they will only be useful to some people. I hope that readers will respond in the comments if they have alternate takes on the material that might be useful to others.